A feminist tip that dates back at least to the 1960s: send him out to buy you tampons. That will scare away most men. If he buys them, you have a good prospect. If he asks if you also need chocolate or painkillers, you have a keeper.
What's sadder is how little has changed in all those years.
It's still up to women to handle the boundaries, because most men just won't do it. They'll say anything to get their dick wet. However, it's not hard to spot the good ones, if you look at their behavior instead of getting distracted by a pretty face or a big dick.
And as this video points out, there's a certain sort of man who's frustratingly too common, who doesn't just want to "get his dick wet", he wants a conquest. He'll pass up people he can have sex with easier to trick someone else so he can "win".
But yeah if you actually know what to look for you can learn to sort the fakers from the genuinely kind pretty well. But sadly not enough people get taught the warning signs in time, or think they've found the one exception (not that there's no exceptions, but there's so many more tricksters than people who act like tricksters by accident).
The would-be conqueror is typically easy to spot because after the initial approach when he pretends to be a decent human being, he starts pushing boundaries. That's a signal to dump him on his ass and run.
I agree that people often are not taught how to spot abusers. America is much more interested in enabling abusers than in teaching anyone how to avoid or thwart them. Though I've seen some good self-defense classes.
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A feminist tip that dates back at least to the 1960s: send him out to buy you tampons. That will scare away most men. If he buys them, you have a good prospect. If he asks if you also need chocolate or painkillers, you have a keeper.
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It's still up to women to handle the boundaries, because most men just won't do it. They'll say anything to get their dick wet. However, it's not hard to spot the good ones, if you look at their behavior instead of getting distracted by a pretty face or a big dick.
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But yeah if you actually know what to look for you can learn to sort the fakers from the genuinely kind pretty well. But sadly not enough people get taught the warning signs in time, or think they've found the one exception (not that there's no exceptions, but there's so many more tricksters than people who act like tricksters by accident).
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I agree that people often are not taught how to spot abusers. America is much more interested in enabling abusers than in teaching anyone how to avoid or thwart them. Though I've seen some good self-defense classes.